Rahasia 90 / 10

Apakah Rahasia 90/10?

Mungkin masi banyak orang yang bertanya - tanya ketika mendengarnya..
jadi sebenarnya 10% dari kejadian dalam kehidupan kita tidak bisa kita elakkan. dan 90% kejadian dalam kehidupan ditentukan oleh bagaimana kita bereaksi / memberi respon.
Apa arti dari makna tersebut diatas?
Kita sungguh-sungguh tidak dapat mengontrol 10% kejadian-kejadian yang menimpa kita dalam kehidupan ini. sebagai contoh Kita tidak dapat mencegah kerusakan mobil. Pesawat mungkin terlambat, dan mengacaukan seluruh jadwal kita. Seorang supir mungkin menyalip kita di tengah kemacetan lalu-lintas. Kita tidak punya kontrol atas hal yang 10% ini. tetapi yang 90% lagi berbeda. Kita lah menentukan yang 90%!

pastilah kita bertanya Bagaimana?
jawaban nya adalah dengan reaksi kita.

Kita tidak dapat mengontrol lampu merah, tapi dapat mengontrol reaksi kita. Jangan biarkan orang lain mempermainkan kita, kita dapat mengendalikan reaksi kita!

Mari lihat sebuah contoh.
Engkau sedang sarapan bersama keluarga. dan seketika itu Adik perempuanmu menumpahkan secangkir kopi ke kemeja kerja mu. Engkau tidak dapat mengendalikan apa yang telah terjadi itu. Apa yang terjadi kemudian akan ditentukan oleh bagaimana engkau bereaksi. Engkau mengumpat. Engkau dengan kasar memarahi adik mu yang menumpahkan kopi. Dia menangis. Setelah itu, engkau melihat ke istri mu, dan mengkritiknya karena telah menaruh cangkir kopi terlalu dekat dengan tepi meja. Pertempuran kata-kata singkat menyusul. Engkau naik pitam dan kemudian pergi mengganti kemeja. Setelah itu engkau kembali dan melihat adik perempuan mu sedang menghabiskan sarapan sambil menangis dan siap berangkat ke sekolah.
Dia ketinggalan bis sekolah. Istrimu harus segera berangkat kerja. Engkau segera menuju mobil dan mengantar adik mu ke sekolah.
Karena engkau terlambat, engkau mengendarai mobil melewati batas kecepatan maksimum. Setelah tertunda 15 menit karena harus membayar tilang, engkau tiba di sekolah. Adikmu berlari masuk. Engkau melanjutkan perjalanan, dan tiba di kantor terlambat 20 menit, dan engkau baru sadar, bahwa tas kerjamu tertinggal. Hari-mu begitu buruk. Engkau ingin segera pulang. Ketika engkau pulang, engkau menemukan ada hambatan dalam hubungan dengan istri dan adikmu.

Kenapa?
Karena reaksimu pagi tadi.

Kenapa hari mu buruk?
a) Karena secangkir kopi yang tumpah?
b) Kecerobohan adikmu?
c) Polisi yang menilang?
d) Karena dirimu sendiri?

Jawaban-nya adalah D.

Engkau tidak dapat mengendalikan tumpahnya kopi itu.
Bagaimana reaksi-mu 5 detik kemudian itu, itulah yang menyebabkan hari mu menjadi buruk.
Ini yang mungkin terjadi jika engkau bereaksi dengan cara yang berbeda. Kopi tumpah di kemejamu. Adikmu sudah siap menangis. Engkau dengan lembut berkata "Tidak apa-apa sayang, lain kali kamu lebih hati-hati ya". Engkau pergi mengganti kemejamu dan dan tidak lupa mengambil tas kerjamu. Engkau kembali dan melihat adikmu sedang naik ke dalam bus sekolah. Istrimu menciummu sebelum engkau berangkat kerja. Engkau tiba di kantor 5 menit lebih awal, dan dengan riang menyalami para karyawan. Atasanmu berkomentar tentang bagimana baiknya hari ini buat mu. Lihat perbedaannya. Dua skenario yang berbeda. Keduanya dimulai dari hal yang sama, tapi berakhir dengan berbeda.

Kenapa?
Karena REAKSI kita.

Sungguh kita tidak dapat mengontrol 10% hal-hal yang terjadi.
Tapi yang 90% lagi ditentukan oleh reaksi kita.

The Story of the One-Eyed Mother

My mom only had one eye.

I hated her...
she was such an embarrassment...
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school and my mom came. I was so embarrassed. How could she do this to me? I threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school... "Your mom only has one eye?!?!"...eeeee said a friend.
I wished my mom would just disappear from this world. So I said to my mom, "Mom... Why don't you have the other eye?! If you're only gonna make me a laughing stock, why don't you just die?!!!" My mom did not respond... I guess I felt a little bad, but at the same time, it felt good to think that I had said what I'd wanted to say all this time... Maybe it was because my mom hadn't punished me, but I didn't think that I had hurt her feelings very badly.
That night... I woke up, and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. My mom was crying there, so quietly, as if she was afraid that she might wake me. I took a look at her, and then turned away. Because of the thing I had said to her earlier, there was something pinching at me in the corner of my heart. Even so, I hated my mother who was crying out of her one eye. So I told myself that I would grow up and become successful. Then I studied real hard. I left my mother and went to Singapore to study. Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. Then I had kids too...
Now I'm living happily as a successful man. I like it here because it's a place that doesn't remind me of my mom. This happiness was getting bigger and bigger, when... What?! Who's this?!
It was my mother...
Still with her one eye...
I felt as if the whole sky was falling apart on me. Even my children ran away, scared of my mom's eye. And I asked her, "Who are you?!" "I don't know you!!!" as if trying to make that real. I screamed at her, "How dare you come to my house and scare my children!"
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!" And to this, my mother quietly answered, "Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address," and she disappeared out of sight. Thank goodness... She doesn't recognize me. I was quite relieved. I told myself that I wasn't going to care, or think about this for the rest of my life. Then a wave of relief came upon me...
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house in Singapore. So, lying to my wife that I was going on a business trip, I went. After the reunion, I went down to the old shack, that I used to call a house... Just out of curiosity There, I found my mother fallen on the cold ground. But I did not shed a single tear. She had a piece of paper in her hand....It was a letter to me. "My son... I think my life has been long enough now... And... I wont visit Singapore anymore... But would it be too much to ask if I wanted you to come visit me once in a while? I miss you so much.. And I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I decided not to go to the school. For you... And I'm sorry that I only have one eye, and I was an embarrassment for you. You see, when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mom, I couldn't stand watching you having to grow up with only one eye... So I gave you mine... I was so proud of my son that was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye. I was never upset at you for anything you did.. The couple times that you were angry with me.. I thought to myself, It's because he loves me..' My son... Oh, my son... "

This message has a very deep meaning and is passed to remind people of the goodness they have enjoy was because of others directly or indirectly. Pause a moment and consider your life! Be thankful of what you have today compared to many millions who do not live lives as you do!

Do spend some time in prayer for your mum out there!